Does that title not make you hope for a beautiful post? A post I did a while back got a particular comment that made me drop my stylus. As you know, GWGT takes you on tour of gardens I visit, showing you some of the one thousand open-gardens in my area. Now for a little blog etiquette.
I wanted to write this post in a humorous manner, then decided not to belittle the importance of the message. Sometimes what people say in comments can make one not want to share. I bet it happens to you too where people comment without thinking how others perceive their remarks.
I prefer honesty though, yet have to consider how the remarks are seen by owners of the gardens I feature.
Looking for an offending comment would be difficult among over 800 posts and 26,000 comments. I deleted that comment after the owner complained.
Sometimes the photos do not do a garden justice, but that is the fault of the photographer, not the garden owner. And yes, there are gardens you might just question “Why on earth?” I have seen a few of those, but there is always something to be found of interest, even if the unusual or oddity is what is engaging.
This faux pas was not on a recent post but it prompted that post and this one. Please be considerate when GWGT is featuring gardens like you see in this post. They are all gardens from my area. I never realized that I would have a problem with comments until I did. It has been why I have been posting fewer gardens.
Inoffensive comments making garden owners shake their heads are those that say things like “I only like my own garden,” or those that endlessly babble on about their own garden without even a brief word on the featured garden. We bloggers love hearing about the commenting person’s own garden, but just not on a post about a homeowner’s featured private garden – unless the comment relates to it directly. By omission or lack of acknowledgement, it creates a similar upsetting feeling. I just gave up worrying on questionable comments, but garden owners look at them much differently.
Bloggers have every right to their opinion, but should consider how far-reaching words travel. I prefer some discretion.
It thought hard on why this person would dismiss the gardens in the post. The comment was representing a much bigger issue. Comments on GWGT are read by garden owners. Imagine your own garden getting disparaging remarks!
How to incorporate ornament and use arches.
I have gardens that show just about any type of gardening, some I have designed and others I visit. I have to be sensitive to posting them as a designer because I often know the owners of the gardens posted. A couple of the “famous” gardens have linked to my posts about them. I could turn off comments but that ruins the fun and authenticity of blogging.
In the post The Biltmore Estate Gardens Asheville, NC, I countered a popular blogger’s negative post, Beautiful, But Kind of a Yawn, that appeared right after the Fling trip to North Carolina. I am not sure why they said “Beautiful” in the title, because they took issue with so much at Biltmore. Designing estate gardens myself, that post was very offensive and the “following like sheep” comments even worse.
Plant partnering and great use of color combinations.
Famous gardens do get comments. Some are quick to say they do not prefer seeing them and instead welcome those “by regular folks”, ie not designers. I can understand their sentiment and personal preference, but I think they need to reevaluate how much can be learned from these type of gardens.
My reply to this is something that needs addressing. The big gardens offer many ideas if you break them down into their parts. The parts by themselves are easy to implement for just about any gardener. It is overwhelming to only see these gardens in their entirety, so looking a bit closer and isolating what appeals is how a gardener can learn to use these garden ideas for their own.
I will do a post on that at some point. It really is important I believe for gardeners to see why and how these big gardens are designed – and what they can take away as usable portions of the design.
In each of the photo examples, all what is good about the small designs can be seen in large public gardens as well. I will show you how.
Rear gardening with limited or no turf grass.
Okey dokey, now that I got that out of the way… I do have a nice garden from one of my Garden Club members coming up. Hopefully the person with the negative commenting now reconsiders.
On Nature and Wildlife Pics – Stare Master.